making patterns in your eyes

I didn't take anything lilacturtl said out of context. She said specifically that she was worried about a future where kids would be given gender-reassignment surgery simply for having non-gender-normative interests. That's stupidly alarmist, and the effects of that baseless alarmism hurt actual trans* people, most of whom realize early in life that they're not cisgender. Sorry if that's a little inconvenient for tumblr radfems.

Given that kids get tagged ADHD/autism/diagnosis du jour for behaviours that were either considered normal or transitory, I don’t trust the medical industry a single bit in this. Particularly given that the primary ‘reason’ for a child being called and diagnosed and treated as trans is non-conformist behaviour re: gender.

I’m going to figure you don’t know/read lilacturtl much and I know you don’t know much about me. But calling a little girl’s very accurate and very incisive behavioural observation that being a girl the way society codes girl is something that is not only ‘bad’ but not in line with one’s own self GID or trans is missing the point.

Have a look at the devastation wrought by well-meaning but truly stupid therapists, social workers, doctors and other bystanders back in the 80s and 90s about satanic and ritual abuse. See how baseless and daft it all was and see how pervasive it got. And then apply that to the increasing gender segregation of mainstream society (particularly anything to do with children) and the way the diagnosis for GID/trans is being lowered in age and ‘symptoms’. That’s the point - not individuals, not adults, but little kids having truly normal and expected parts of their development effectively forced into a specific shape to support the GID/trans diagnosis.

I just realized what all this “The Avengers” talk is about.

lilacturtl:

gaynotqueer:

It’s a movie.  I kept seeing stuff on my dash about it, but never actually knew what it was.  Thank God I’m alienated from popular culture.

Haha, for a while there was this like, wall of Tom Hiddleston (the dood from that movie that everyone thinks is hawt) covering all of tumblr. I was like “this is terrible, I must do something” and found a work safe naked Drew Carey picture to retaliate with the next time it happened, but the squeeing seems to have finally relented.

Now I want a worksafe nude Drew Carey picture.

lilacturtl:

fashcapade:

Being curvy is NOT a fashion death sentence.

Take some wardrobe tips from curvacious blogger, Nadia Aboulhosn.

Well yeah, but I’d argue that being a matronly rectangle with “German arms” and a santa claus belly DEFINITELY is.

But that’s ok.

Seriously though I want to scream from the rooftops: NOT EVERY CHUBBY WOMAN HAS AN ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

NOT EVERY CHUBBY WOMAN HAS AN ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

NOT EVERY CHUBBY WOMAN HAS AN ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

NOT EVERY CHUBBY WOMAN HAS AN ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

NOT EVERY CHUBBY WOMAN HAS AN ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

(or a giant rack, while we’re at it)

galesofnovember:

plathgirl:

endquestionmark:

animagigirl:

Jesus H. moherfucking christ, since mother-fucking when would Sherlock use fucking google. HOW VERY AMERICANIZED, KISS MY ASS, FUCKERS,  THIS IS NOT SHERLOCK HOLMES

the next person who says “americanized” like that i swear to god

you realize google is not exclusively american

you realize you’re talking about BBC sherlock, and this is not an adaptation of that

i fail to see why taking a shortcut is something that sherlock holmes would not do

please go fuck yourself

Google = technology!

ACD!Sherlock was on the very cutting edge of technology! Fingerprinting! Profiling! Other cutting edge forensic science for the 1800s!

WHY THE FUCK WOULD SHERLOCK NOT USE GOOGLE? IT’S KIND OF PRETTY ACTUALLY REALLY USEFUL FOR THINGS LIKE, I DON’T KNOW, RESEARCH!

Everything I see on tumblr makes me want to watch this show more. 

ilovecephalopods:

mandrellian:

nov 2010, guardian squid #cephalopod #squid #baby #newborn #family (Taken with instagram)

I approve of anyone who would put a tiny stuffed squid by a newborn and call it Guardian Squid. Precious childhood memories.

Daft act for the day

lilacturtl:

geekanachronism:

lilacturtl:

geekanachronism:

And I swear I’m getting a fauxhawk just to prove a goddamn point. Fuck you gender essentialist fuckwits - mainstream or trans-positive, fuck you all. Short hair doesn’t make me, or my kid, a dyke or trans or ugly or confused or anything. It means I have short fucking hair. 

Except I’d be cutting my hair to make a political point.

Emma whatshername from Harry Potter has a cute, actually short cut you can find with the googles, if you want a picture you can take to a hairdresser. Of course being both lazy and somewhat butch I just handed my spouse a pair of scissors and an electric razor and said “burn it. burn it to the ground” when I got fed up with my mane. Not the first time I have done that, and probably not the last.

As the mom of girls about that age, I’d recommend just trimming off a few inches at first to see how she likes it. Easier to go down inch by inch than deal with a total freakout if she doesn’t like a lot having been cut—and kids that age can be unexpectedly territorial about their stuff…I have one who is protective of her nails getting cut, like I am stealing what is rightfully hers, lol.

You could also do the 1920s type very short shingle, I think that looks cute on little chubby cheeked babies.

She used to have the very short shingle and it was totally adorable. And I admit the hair on your kids makes me happy with her current cut apart from the awful awful knots we’re getting. 

And yeah, good call on the going slow. She loves getting her hair cut when Daddy does his beard, so I’ll just cut more off than I usually do. I know he won’t go at my hair and I’m not sure I’m willing just yet. I just remember the growing out bits, and the bad bad photos. I don’t have any good ones of me with short hair. Any.

All I really do to my kids’ hair is trim the bangs straight across and clean up the ends when it gets raggedy. I think the shorter pics you have seen were from after some big tangle or something when a couple got radical trims. No good sleep in 6 years, I’m lucky if I can remember all their names, so idk. :P

Yeah growing out from very short is an adventure. I liked it best when I had an actual hairdresser give me what they annoyingly call a “pixie cut” and specifically asked her to make it so it would grow out nice. It did! There was no mullet stage, somehow. That was an expensive cut though, I could not do that now. D:

Nah, it’s the long hair pics that make me go “awww, but it’s soooo cuuuuuute, I can’t cut it!” although I do love the shingle look.

I’ve gone to the same hairdresser enough lately that if I walked in and asked for a fauxhawk or pixie she’d *eyebrow* at me and ask me if I have a new job yet. And exactly how a short haircut is gonna change my life. 

I once knew a girl at uni who was all ‘yeah, struggling, so poor’ and then told us about her $400 hair cut. I get thingy about my $60-$90 jobs. Which I’ve only done for the past two years to try and not be all “aaahhhhh about my hair”. And long means I put it up and stick bobby pins in and I’m done. I don’t know that I will get that with short hair.

#too much thinking

Daft act for the day

lilacturtl:

geekanachronism:

And I swear I’m getting a fauxhawk just to prove a goddamn point. Fuck you gender essentialist fuckwits - mainstream or trans-positive, fuck you all. Short hair doesn’t make me, or my kid, a dyke or trans or ugly or confused or anything. It means I have short fucking hair. 

Except I’d be cutting my hair to make a political point.

Emma whatshername from Harry Potter has a cute, actually short cut you can find with the googles, if you want a picture you can take to a hairdresser. Of course being both lazy and somewhat butch I just handed my spouse a pair of scissors and an electric razor and said “burn it. burn it to the ground” when I got fed up with my mane. Not the first time I have done that, and probably not the last.

As the mom of girls about that age, I’d recommend just trimming off a few inches at first to see how she likes it. Easier to go down inch by inch than deal with a total freakout if she doesn’t like a lot having been cut—and kids that age can be unexpectedly territorial about their stuff…I have one who is protective of her nails getting cut, like I am stealing what is rightfully hers, lol.

You could also do the 1920s type very short shingle, I think that looks cute on little chubby cheeked babies.

She used to have the very short shingle and it was totally adorable. And I admit the hair on your kids makes me happy with her current cut apart from the awful awful knots we’re getting. 

And yeah, good call on the going slow. She loves getting her hair cut when Daddy does his beard, so I’ll just cut more off than I usually do. I know he won’t go at my hair and I’m not sure I’m willing just yet. I just remember the growing out bits, and the bad bad photos. I don’t have any good ones of me with short hair. Any.

Daft act for the day

So, kiddo has got her second fierce and awful knot in her hair. Same place. It took me ten minutes of conditioner and combing in the shower to get it out last time and I am so not cool with doing this on a regular basis. 

And yes, we do brush her hair every day.

So I’m thinking of cutting it short. I’ve been thinking of cutting mine off too. I won’t lie, I always do this when I’m depressed and anxious (new hair will make me a new person *sigh*) but today she said she wants to have long hair like Mummy, and talking with a friend, I realised she’s the only woman I know IRL with short hair. And I only know one man with ‘long’ hair. It’s all a little mainstream up in here right now. So what’s the daft act you say?

I googled “short hair for little girls”. WTF people. Short hair on girls and women isn’t nasty, or bad, or awful, or gross. Jolie isn’t ‘abusing’ Shiloh for letting her have short hair AND wear what she wants. Seriously. It doesn’t mean she’s gay, or trans, or anything. She just has short hair. FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

I had short hair from 8 to 22. Occasionally it got to my shoulders (which, according to every moron with a page about haircuts, is still short for women) but mostly it was short - above the chin. I also wore boys and mens clothes a lot. I even bound my chest for a while. Now? Now I’m hetero, married, monogamous and about as womanly looking as you can get without being a Venus statue. 

And I swear I’m getting a fauxhawk just to prove a goddamn point. Fuck you gender essentialist fuckwits - mainstream or trans-positive, fuck you all. Short hair doesn’t make me, or my kid, a dyke or trans or ugly or confused or anything. It means I have short fucking hair. 

Except I’d be cutting my hair to make a political point.